Can we keep it real for a second?
How many of you are working a job you hate right now?
How many of you are putting all your energy into something meaningless?
How many of you have been putting your dreams on the back burner?
Remember, we are supposed to be keeping it real. I need your most honest and unadultered answers. Often times, we find ourselves in a place of comfortabilty. And I am not here to tell you that this is a bad thing. For some people, comfortability is all they know. They wake up in their comfortable bed, go to their comfortable job, deal with their comfortable nonsense that comes with said job, and collect their comfortable paycheck and repeat. Nothing out of the ordinary happens, they pretty much take what they can get and never question whether they will ever have more. If I have just described you, stick around you just may begin to question, just how comfortable you truly are.However, this post is for the hungry but forgetful ones. You know that there is so much more you can be doing to work toward the life you have always wanted, but somewhere along the line you have deemed it as something that would just happen or something that will come if "its meant to be." You told yourself that you would start that business 4 years ago, lose that weight 2 kids ago, start writing that book 3 centuries ago...and it still has not happened. Have you fallen out of love with the idea, that you are not capable of doing these things? Have you given up on the idea? Has life come at you from an angle you did not expect? No matter the reason, I am here to tell you that whatever it is that you desire, it is still possible!!
When I graduated high school and lost my first job, I felt so lost! I had gotten into colleges and even decided on one but I could not afford to go. Financial aid was a joke and I just could not bring myself to openly walk into a sea of debt. I had no idea what my next move would be, but I knew it required money. So I began to apply to several jobs, well a lot of jobs. I had gotten a call back from Burlington Coat Factory, got the job, long story short... I HATED IT! The pay was crap, the hours were worse, the store was hot, the list goes on. But I decided to stick with it until I found something better. Well, better called about a month later and I was ecstatic. Got that job too, quit the last one, and started with high hopes. Then the unexpected happened... I was at the register ringing up customers, doing my usual duties and I felt so unenthused. My mind was traveling to me being in school, making more money, driving, living the life I knew I was capable of creating. It was at that moment, I decided to go for it.
Now I am here, writing this post to inspire you to go for it as well. Here are a few tips I believe will help you tap into that potential and claim the life you always wanted.
STEP 1: KNOW WHAT IT IS THAT YOU WANT
" Sometimes its the smallest decisions that can change your life forever." -Keri Russell
I know, I know. Knowing what you want is one of the hardest questions we can ever ask ourselves. If you are anything like me, you are super indecisive. Hell, sometimes the thought of deciding where to eat gives me anxiety. Seriously. However, there comes a time where you have to buckle down and get serious about you! Only you can make the decision for you, so this is where you will decide what you want and what it will take to get there. That is as simple as it gets. It is also important to note that in this step, you must make peace with the fact that this will not be easy. This is the road less traveled so expect plenty of bumps.
STEP 2: ERASE ALL YOUR SELF-DOUBT
"The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease to be able to do it." -J.M Barrie
Now, you have decided what you want to do and you are super stoked about it and BOOM!! The self-doubt begins to set in. You start thinking about all the time it will take, how you are going to fit it into your already chaotic schedule, your age, your ability to pull it off, will anyone ever read said book or buy said products....the list goes on. Basically, everything and anything that could go wrong dances around in your mind. It is inevitable. And this is usually the step where most people throw in the towel. But you are different, this will be the step that you rise to the occasion. Because you have already decided that this is what you want! And because this is what you want, you must brush off these jittery thoughts. They are the number one killers of dreams and exist solely to keep you in your comfort zone. Remember no one said that this would be easy and because we have made peace with that fact, we have just overcome our first road bump.
STEP 3: START WORKING ON THE GOAL
"All will finish but only a few will start." -J. Janae
One of the biggest misconsceptions of this journey you are about to embark on is that starting is the first step. There is a reason that I chose this to be the third. When you are fighting for the life you want, your biggest competitor is you. You have to go toe-to-toe with your mind. Because as great as it is, it is designed to keep you safe. However, in this instance a little danger is necessary. There is no reward without risks so you have to go all in. Start. Start. And start some more. That is the only way to get where you are going. Every day from your start date should push you closer toward your the life you are creating. This is the step where you start aligning your priorities and putting them in order according to importance. For example if your goal is to write a book, your starting point should not be looking for editors and publishers, your first step should be brainstorming, forming characters, and/or your first page if letting it flow is more of your speed. The key is to just begin, not to go full throttle and tire yourself out from the idea. Moral of the story, start.
STEP 4: MAKE TIME FOR YOUR GOALS
"It's not about having time, it's about making time." -Unknown
In walks another road bump, life is still going on. Just because you decided that you were ready to tap into your full potential, and go after the life you always wanted DOES NOT mean that the world around you has done the same. You still have to work, the children still need to be taken care of, and the bills are still rolling in. Nothing we did not expect but knowing that does not make it any easier. This is known as the step where a lot of people will fall back into their own ways. It will get too hard, they will be too tired, decide to take the night off, and never go back to working on their goals. This will not be you. No one is expecting you to never sleep or put all your time outside of your priorities into this but you have to make time! Come up with a schedule that works for you and stick to it. We are only as great as the work we put in, and unfortunately when you take the road less traveled there are certain sacrifices we have to make.
STEP 5: CELEBRATE SMALL VICTORIES/ REMEMBER WHY YOU STARTED
"Success is a series of small wins." -Unknown
Congratulations, you have been working on your goals, losing a little sleep, seeing a little progress, and maintaining your pace. No matter what stage you are in, continue to stay consistent, and celebrate the little things. Rome was not built in a day. It is a marathon, not a race. Be thankful for how far you have come. Most people take what life gives them without question or resistance. You have decided to do the opposite and that is something to celebrate. Make sub-goals within your initial goal and celebrate them as you achieve them. It will not only make you feel proud of this stage in your journey but it will push you to keep going. The more goals you cross off your list, the closer you are to the life you have always wanted. Celebrating these goals will also provoke you to remember why you started. Use this as your driving force, to continue and be productive in your journey.
Hopefully, you found this post helpful. Take a closer look at your life and make sure it is one that you would be satisfied with when it is all said and done. Time and potential are the two worse things one can waste. Because once it is gone, there is no getting it back. Do not let anything get in the way of the life you deserve to live. After all, today is the youngest you will ever be and there is no time like the present.